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1. Communicate openly and honestly. Good communication is key to any healthy relationship. Make an effort to regularly check in with your partner and be open and honest about your thoughts, feelings, and needs. 2. Practice respect and kindness. Treat your partner with kindness, respect, and consideration. Avoid criticism, contempt, or defensiveness in your interactions. 3. Foster trust. Trust is an essential component of any healthy relationship. Be dependable, reliable, and honest with your partner. 4. Make time for each other. Make an effort to prioritize your relationship and set aside dedicated time for one another. This could be as simple as having a weekly date night or making time for daily check-ins. 5. Practice healthy conflict resolution. It's natural for couples to have conflicts from time to time. When conflicts arise, try to approach them in a calm, respectful manner and work towards a resolution together ✍️ Share to educate others. Cheers🍻

1. Being horny is not evil or a sin. 2. Blessed are you when you are married to a spouse who is often horny for you. 3. One of the things that reduces horniness in marriage is frequent and prolonged arguments. 4. It is not men alone who are horny creatures. Women too get horny, some women get extra horny during ovulation; their body just wants to be touched, they are very wet. 5. A lot of men wake up horny ready for love making. Dear wife, attend to his erection. 6. Sometimes horniness can get so much till someone can't function well. This is why marriage offers a release. 7. One of the major challenges of long-distance marriages is that when you get horny, your spouse is far away. Address this by calling each other and flirting together over the phone in moments of horniness and when you finally are together, explode and explore your horniness on each other. 8. It hurts when you are horny but your spouse turns you down. It is one of the worst forms of rejection. 9. Som...

1. STARE AT HER WITH DESIRE A woman feels wanted most by how her man looks at her. Men are visually stimulated beings so she will look to see if your eyes tell her 'I want you.' 2. LET HER KNOW WHEN SHE TURNS YOU ON She feels good when she knows she arouses you. If you are near her and with a hard on or thinking about her when you two are apart and find life in your boxer too hard for comfort; let her know. She wants to know she has an effect on you; even after years together she wants to know she's still got it. 3. PRAISE HER BODY Speak it, let her hear you talk so good about her sex appeal. 4. NOTICE HER EFFORTS If she gets a new hair do, a new dress, if she works out; let her know you are paying attention. 5. PROTECT HER FROM HERSELF A woman can sleep feeling sexy then wake up doubting her sexiness. One negative comment from someone can easily make her question her appeal. She might look at herself and not like her body weight, size or shape and she lowers ho...

Forgiving doesn’t mean you are OK with what happened or you are again best friends with the person or that you even like the person to communicate with them. Forgiving someone mean letting go of all the resentment that you feel for the person & whatever happened. Forgiving someone is for you, and maybe a just a little bit for them. Remorse and honesty are 2 important factors helping people to go through difficulty and forgiveness. There are steps to moving forward with or without…. STEP ONE: Are they worth another chance? Some cheating partners don’t deserve to be forgiven. Ask yourself these five crucial questions. 1. Have they cheated on other people in the past? 2. Why did they do it? A one-off incident with seemingly genuine reasons to explain it is a lot easier to forgive than repeated slip-ups or a long-term affair. 3. What do you think they will do if they're in the same predicament in the future? 4. What guarantees can they give you that it won’t happen agai...

1. Most women get annoyed and upset with guys who compare them to other girls. 2. Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you. 3. If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy taken. Happiness comes from within, not from a relationship. 4. Being nice to someone you dislike doesn't mean you're being fake. It means you're mature enough to tolerate that individual. 5. If you don't do stupid things while you're young, you'll never have anything to smile about when you're old. 6. No matter how strong of a person you are, there’s always someone who can make you weak. 7. Missing someone and not being able to do anything about it generally makes people moody, easily annoyed and/or emotionally frustrated. #SHARE to educate others.Cheers 🥂

1. We need to grow up and stop this game of tit for tat. It is childish to revenge. 2. We need to grow up and stop this silent treatment that lasts for weeks. Grown ups don't behave like this. 3. We need to grow up and stop talking constanly about our problems and start focusing on solutions. Grown ups act. 4. We need to grow up and stop exposing our children to our drama and issues. We shouldn't act childish in their presence with disunity and attitude, they are under our care. 5. We need to grow up and learn that disagreeing doesn't mean we don't love each other. Grown ups learn to work through the differences. 6. We need to grow up and become accountable and responsible so there is no need to suspect each other. You don't need to police me, I don't need to police you. 7. We need to grow up and stop allowing our parents and friends from coming between us. This is our marriage, not theirs. 8. We need to grow up and stop shouting and provoking each o...

1. FRIENDSHIP: Try to be your spouse best friend. No matter what happens, be a friend first, and a lover later. 2. TRUST: The key element to any relationship is trust, so before starting this beautiful journey with your spouse, learn to trust in all circumstances. 3. UNDERSTANDING: Try to figure out each other and work out on your differences. There are going to be many differences, but it’s mutual compromise and sacrifice which makes this relationship beautiful. 4. COMMUNICATION: Try to talk and convey your message to your spouse. Let your spouse know about how good/bad your day was along with reminding them how you feel for them. 5. HONESTY: Always speak the truth, never lie or hide things in fear that your spouse won’t understand.Give your spouse a chance to understand you. 6. FREEDOM: Give your spouse space and freedom to decide for themselves. Don’t take away the personal time of your spouse. #SHARE to educate others.Cheers 🥂

1. Never keep secrets from each other. 2. Always give a hug and a kiss before leaving the house. 3. When your partner speaks, use not only your ears to listen but also the heart. 4. Never walk away from each other even during arguments. 5. Avoid speaking the past moments. Focus on present and the future instead. 6. Always eat together if you can and more importantly sleep together during every night. 7. Reserve time on weekend for family. just a romantic stroll in the neighbourhood does wonders. 8. If you want to argue do it lovingly, talk calmly, learn to shut up and listen. 9. Never say fine, you are always right when you don’t mean it. 10. Appreciate and remember the good times, forgive and forget the past. 11. Always remind yourself that true love is rare, you might never find another who loves you this much. 12. Always stand by your words.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮 𝗹𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗮𝗻, 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗲 𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗮𝘀: 𝟭. 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀. 𝗟𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻❜𝘁 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀. 𝟮. 𝗗𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘂𝘀𝘆. 𝗟𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻❜𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝗸𝗲 𝗺𝗲𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝘁𝗼𝗼 𝗺𝘂𝗰𝗵. 𝟯. 𝗗𝗼 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘆. 𝗟𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘆 𝗺𝗲𝗻. 𝟰. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗮𝘁; 𝗱𝗼𝗻❜𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝗱𝗶𝗿𝘁𝘆 𝗴𝘂𝘆. 𝗗𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗰𝘂𝘁𝗲. 𝟱. 𝗡𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗺𝗽𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗮 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗺 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝗻 𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗺 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂, 𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗼𝘂𝘁. 𝗦𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝘁. 𝟲. 𝗣𝗮𝗰𝗸𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗮 𝘄𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝗼𝗿𝗴𝗮𝗻𝗶𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗴𝘂𝘆. 𝟳. 𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲. 𝗕𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲𝗼𝘂𝘀. 𝟴. 𝗚𝗶𝘃𝗲 ...

I have always been serious with my books and my studies, so I never had time for women. There were times I had crushes on women who were close to me but I didn’t want to frustrate my education with relationship issues so I always bottled up my feelings. What even made it harder for me to approach women is the fact that I am introverted. So socializing with people altogether wasn’t my thing.  The only time I considered entering a relationship was when I felt I was ready for marriage. My closest friend, Adam, who knew about my difficulty in talking to women offered to play matchmaker between me and his female friend. I told him, “If you think this person you are talking about is someone I can marry then link us up.” He did exactly that and I opened my life to this lady. As I studied her closely, I realized that she wasn’t interested in me as a person. All she wanted was what I could give her. So I cut ties with her as quickly as possible and moved on with my life.  A...

I grew up in a polygamous family. My dad has three wives, and each wife has a number of children. My mother has four of us; two girls and two boys. While my father is physically present in our lives, he has never brought anything home in terms of finances. As kids, we looked to our mother for everything. Honestly, I am sure my dad has never contributed a pesewa to our upkeep. There were times we didn’t even have enough to eat, and the older kids would sleep on empty stomachs, just so our younger siblings wouldn’t have to.  Due to financial struggles, my elder brother and I ended up in the same class. This made things more difficult for my mum, so when we got to SHS we had to attend school in the north. Secondary school education there is free, so it was ideal for our situation. But even with that, it was still difficult for my mum to provide us with provisions and pocket money. And the conditions in the school were difficult. The food was terrible, and we suffered water...

I grew up in a family that often left their offspring to their own devices. This means the adults don’t lose a night’s sleep over how their kids live their lives. I could leave the house for days and no one would bother to find out where I went, or if I was okay. I could go out and come home with one of my limbs missing and everyone would act like it’s just a normal day. It took me a long time to come to this painful realization that, nobody cares. So I started looking out for myself the best way I could. I tried my best but I had to drop out of school when I was in my third year of high school, because of an injury I suffered on my leg. I couldn’t walk for some time but now I’m better, although I feel pain when I walk sometimes. I told myself, “I will go back to school one day when I can afford to. But for now, I have to hustle and take care of myself.” Through my hustling, I met a guy who took a shine to me. Along the line, he expressed his feelings for me and asked me to...

I was twenty-four when I entered my first serious relationship. By then I was a greenhorn. I belong to a church that strongly preaches abstinence so it was hard for me to want to do anything sexual outside the confines of marriage. I was determined that the man I marry would be my first lover. However, I got curious when I started dating Ben. When I turned twenty-five I couldn’t resist the need to satisfy my curiosity any longer so we did it, shuperu. You know how they say curiosity kills the cat? Well, in my case it broke my mother’s heart.  What happened was, I felt guilty after the experience. My guilt was so bad that I started having weird dreams about the whole thing. So I went to confess it to my spiritual mother and sought her counsel. My spiritual mother then told my mother about it. And my mum was disappointed. She even told me, “I am so hurt by what you have done. Do you know one day I had a heart attack at the market because of this?” I remember rolling my ey...

It all started when I was recovering from a terrible accident that nearly paralyzed me. I met a guy while I was a level 200 student walking with a stick. I couldn’t sleep well at night because of the physical pain I was suffering and he was also nursing a broken heart so we bonded over that. We spent a lot of time chatting on the phone and delving into our past. He told me, “Despite all the sacrifices I made for my last girlfriend, she left me to marry another man.” I could tell from the way he spoke about the experience that he really loved the girl. I was touched by his pain and I am sure that it is the empath in me that connected with him. It wasn’t long before I started having affection toward him. I told myself, “He seems like a good man. And who doesn’t like a good man?” One day he asked me to visit him. I could walk then so I honoured his invitation. We talked about ourselves and the feelings we had for each other. By the time I left for my place, we had agreed to st...

My fiancé Abdul and I met in late 2018 in Libya. We are both foreigners in the land so it was easy to find comfort in each other’s friendship. He is originally from Burkina Faso but he grew up in Ghana, while I am a Nigerian who left my homeland in search of greener pastures. When we first met, Abdul was so calm and collected. He spoke like an intelligent and visionary guy and that was what drew me to him. In the course of our friendship, he started saying and acting in a manner that suggested he wanted to be more than friends. I had dreams to accomplish and I didn’t want to be distracted so I refused to acknowledge his advances. But no matter how indifferent I acted toward him, he was determined to win my heart. PayAngel One day I got overwhelmed by his efforts and asked him, “What do you want from me?” He smiled and teased me, “Finally, you ask. I thought you were going to act like an ice queen and continue to ignore me forever.” I rolled my eyes at him and repeated my qu...

King and I broke up about five years ago but I still can’t get over him. We dated for two years, and he was my first love. We met at the university in the same class. He used to help me with my assignments. He was a very good friend before he became a lover. I had most of my best moments with him. King was calm, handsome, caring, and very thoughtful. He pushed me to be the best version of myself. I could always count on him in every aspect of my life. Out of nowhere, everything changed overnight. Our bond started crumbling right before my eyes. I tried everything possible to save the relationship but all my efforts were futile. I think back on how hard I fought, begged, and waited for him to go back to the man I fell in love with. And the countless he dashed my hopes by gradually withdrawing from me. I remember how our relationship was hanging on the edge of a thread but I was pushing it to stay on course. Sadly, I was the only one hanging on to the relationship, but I neve...

I turn twenty-seven this September, and I have been married for almost a year now. Before we got married, my husband was quite the doting partner. He was always in my space and just couldn’t get enough of me. That was one thing I loved about him. It made me feel like he needed me to function properly. That’s the pace our relationship grew at, until we got married. A few days after we got married, I found out that he was cheating on me while we were dating. He had even cheated two weeks before our wedding. I confronted him about it and he admitted it. “Yes, I cheated before we got married and I’m sorry for that. But I want you to know that I respect our marriage vows so I will not repeat that mistake. It ended when we got married, trust me on that.” It was difficult but I forgave him and we moved past it. Apart from that cheating thing, the few months of our marriage were good. We were always hot for each other. I felt that was going to continue for a long time. And then I g...

One day I was at the office when my colleague’s phone rang. The caller ID read; “Ama Cousin”. I called out to my colleague, “Eii Kweku, now you are saving your girlfriends’ names as your cousins.” Kweku laughed, “You can pick up and talk to her if you think your theory is right.” So I accepted the challenge and answered the call. After bombarding her with questions, I confirmed that Ama is indeed my colleague’s cousin. I enjoyed talking to her so I asked, “Can I take your number from Kweku so we talk later?” She said yes and that made me happy. When our friendship began she was in her final year at the university. She is not a very social person so it was difficult to break down her walls and get close to her. She used to leave my WhatsApp messages on read, but I was patient with her. I didn’t push too hard. I just went along with her flow and allowed her to get close to me on her own terms. Four months into our friendship, it happened. She started confiding in me about per...

I got married earlier this year and per tradition, my father was supposed to receive the marriage items, especially the drinks and my dowry. This was a day I looked forward to with expectation and excitement. I was happy that my father would be honoured for all the efforts he put into raising me. But my mother’s family had other plans. According to their custom, my father lost his right to receive the marriage items of his daughters when he refused to perform my mother’s marriage rites.  I would say that I had an interesting childhood because of my dad’s devotion to our family. The fact that he didn’t marry my mother officially didn’t prevent him from taking care of her the way a husband would. He had older kids from his previous marriage and we all lived together under one roof. He did not discriminate among his children. He made sure we never lacked anything. He had a way of keeping our home light with humour. The man could draw laughter from grave situations effortle...

At first, it was nice. He was the kind of guy who said nice things to me. I would wake up with my hair messed up and my breath stinking. But this guy will reach for my head, kiss me and say, “You’re beautiful.” I’ll argue with him. “This is not me. You can’t call me beautiful when I look like this.” He would shoot back at me, “Beauty is just this…raw, unadulterated, simple and true. That’s what you look now.” I will believe him so when he’s not watching, I will take a look at myself in the mirror and confirm what he told me. The voice in my head will say something like, “You better not believe a guy in love. He would call you beautiful when you actually look like a neglected potato.” Another voice in my head, the positive one, the one that claims to be the voice of God said, “I created you in my own image. You are beautiful. He’s only confirming what I’d already placed in you..” PayAngel I will stare at myself for so long and smile girlishly, “This guy will be the death of ...