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You are a winner and more than a conqueror. So go all out there and smash your goals without seeking permission from anyone except God. Be strategic, be sensitive. Stop procrastinating, don’t just trust God, take action. Be a calculated risk taker & be responsible for your actions. Living in Nigeria today is a risk. So, you own your result. So create the result you desire. Everyday I am opportunity for you, leave your comfort zone & your excuses; remember your bills are increasing.  Strategize! strategize!! strategize!!! Here are some common time wasters that cripple people: 1. Procrastination:  We have many PhD & MSc holders in this field. It is the thief of time. Stop it today & intentionally fight it. Seek professional help. They are out there. They can help you. 2. Complaining:  Check your complaint vault, is it not high time you say it's enough?. How many times has your complaints pushed you to get result or think through solution? It's time to repent...

Have you ever wondered what would cause your relationship to end? Or even wondered what signs to look for when you suspect things may be heading in the wrong direction? Psychologist (John Gottman) claims he can predict the strength of a marriage by just a few minutes of observing the couple interacting. Over the past years he found out four characteristics, which if present predict the long-term success of the relationship. These characteristics are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. These four things, if present in a relationship, are, according to Gottman, signs that it will not last long. Constant criticism  has the effect of bringing your partner down. The ideal ratio of positive to negative utterances should be seven positives to every one negative thing said. This is similar to when you were dating and almost every other thing out of your mouths was "sweet nothings" as we call them. If you remember the language of being ...

Some marriage proposal stories are so amazing that you can literally  feel  the love a couple has for each other as you read through it. When the man is the one writing the beautiful proposal story, it makes reading it that much better. That being said, here is one of my favorite “How I Asked” stories yet… As a professional mechanic, I have gotten used to pretty girls batting their eyes at me in hopes of coercing me into performing free car repairs. Heidi was a different story. In fact the first time I met her, she completely shut me down. After being introduced through mutual friends, I mustered up the courage to try and talk to her. She, in turn, did everything she could to let me know how uninterested she was. Ironically, not too long after that, the little orange “Check Engine” light on her dashboard illuminated. For me, it was a little beacon of hope. I ended up spending 6 hours working on her car one Saturday afternoon. She sat there watching me work the entir...

Have you ever felt that you give more than you get in a relationship? Have you ever secretly wished that you could be loved by a man as much as you love him? It is painful when you try so hard to make a relationship work, but the other partner is not willing to try as hard as you are? You are not alone. Many people live life feeling brokenhearted, feeling that they are not loved equally. This article will help you understand how to have an equal relationship with your partner. Things to Remember When Trying to Have an Equal Relationship Find the root of the problem. Don't always try to fill in the blanks. Try to understand your partner's perspective. Ask yourself why women tend to give too much in a relationship. Stop thinking about love as something you need to "earn." Find the Root of Your Relationship's Problems Relationships are difficult. People are complicated and always subject to change. At the same time, you can't depend o...

                                                 communication in relationship S ome people feel that they are unable to express their feelings and emotions to their partner. If that is your case, you are not alone. Communication problems are very common among all types of relationships. There are many reasons why people can't communicate clearly or directly, which will be discussed further below. What we know for sure is that communication problems leave you drained and you lose hope in the relationship; for that reason, you need to learn how to cope with those problems. Keep in mind that communication is a gift and it should be viewed as such. Once we begin to understand its importance in our relationships we can begin using it in a healthy way to have more loving and fulfilling relationships. I cannot stress enough how important it is for peop...

What is Communication ? Communication can be defined as the act of sending or passing information across to people or someone either by internet, television, radio, phone or telegram. Communication can also be defined as the act of someone passing across or speaking his/her mind to people. When it comes to communication in a relationship, communication is something that shouldn’t be neglect; communication is the life chord of a relationship. Communication is very paramount in a relationship just like water and blood are very paramount in human’s body system. We all know that when a body lacks enough blood and water, if care is not taken, the person might die if something is not done very fast. So also is communication in a relationship, when relationship is lacking good communication skills and something is not done about it, that relationship might as a result of that crash. Have seen many relationships been crashed due to lack of good communication. I’m not just ta...

My husband and I had been making plans for leaving the country since when we got married, but getting a visa had always been hard. During this long struggle, we met a friend of ours who told us that she was awarded a visa lottery to America. Of course, we were jealous of her luck but we pushed it down and asked her for help.  We applied separately because we thought that would give us a better chance of getting it, at least one of us was bound to get it. We were both called for interviews on separate days and we prayed fervently to get it. We just wanted to build a good life for our unborn children, so it was imperative that one of us got the visa.  Each day we would check our emails to see if there was anything from the embassy but there was always nothing. We were about to give up until one day, I saw something in my email. It was a letter of approval, I had been approved for a green card. Immediately I saw it, I started screaming, dancing and praising G...

You might be struggling to tell the difference between lust and love. And it’s okay if you’re going through that kind of struggle. You always want to make sure that you’re keeping yourself protected as much as possible. You always want to make sure that you’re not becoming invested in someone who is only going to use you for your body and physical pleasures. You don’t want that because you know that that isn’t what love is about. You know that love is always going to be about more than just how you look and what kind of sex you’re having with a person. IT should cut so much deeper than that. There should always be a real emotional bond and connection between the two of you. But the thing about men these days is that they’re so good at masking their evil and malicious intentions with sweet flowery words and romantic gestures. So many women are victimized every single day by men who prey on their gullibility and openness. Yes, when it comes to love, you always wan...

How do you know for sure that he is really in love with you? Falling in love is a beautiful feeling and it’s even more wonderful when the other person feels the same way about you. It would seem like you’re literally flying without wings! However, it’s natural in the early stages for you to wonder if your man is genuinely in love with you or if you’re misinterpreting his body language. Well, say no more! Let’s help you gain some clarity with these tips on what he will NOT do if he is really in love with you. (All4women) 3 things your man won’t do if he’s in love with you 1. Not make you a priority Making you a priority doesn’t mean that he chooses you over his job or family, but rather that he takes you into consideration when making decisions about these other obligations. Does the man in your life make you a priority in his? Does he consider your feelings and needs first, before his other obligations? If he does, hold on tight. He is definitely a keeper. (Es...