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Continues from part 1 11. The Bedroom's Now Just For Sleeping Unless you've been married for forty years, no intimate relationship is complete without a healthy sex life. Sure, they slow down and get into a rut over time, but that doesn't mean you're still not enjoying each other's bodies. Humans have needs, and sex is right up there for most people with breathing and eating. It's a joy that few ever truly give up. But if the interest stops dead there's either a more serious relationship problem or she's getting her kicks somewhere else. A month or so without getting jiggy isn't a huge deal, but flat our refusal, night after night, is a bad sign. Sure, you could just be awful in the sack. But it's more than likely it's one of the other two options. Either one could be a symptom or a cause, and either one spells out T-R-O-U-B-L-E. 12. She's Avoiding Your Questions Everybody knows, deep down, that cheating on someone is ...

You deserve someone that’ll thank God everyday for you. someone that’ll treat you like a blessing & not a burden. someone that makes you consistently laugh & is there to wipe your tears away. someone that shows you how much they love you instead of just saying it. don’t settle Love is not about sex, going on fancy dates, or showing off. Its about being with a person who makes you happy in a way nobody else can. Let the last time be the last time. you can’t heal in the same environment that hurts you. you can’t be fixed by someone who continuously breaks you. stop putting your heart through the same cycles of pain. you deserve better. better does exist Once you find that one person that makes you happy in a way that no one else can, don't ever let them go & never ever take them for granted. Someone told me, “be careful, the devil can hear your prayers too. he doesn’t always come with horns & a pitchfork, sometimes he comes dressed up like every...

Our mouth is one of the most powerful weapon most people are not aware of. The mouth can kill and can also make to life, a dead one. With the mouth, Jesus Christ speaks to the dead and was made to life. He also speaks to the blind, the lame and they were all made well. According to the book of Proverbs 18:21 , King Solomon makes us to understand that there is power in every word that we speak, either to ourselves or to others, he said "death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit." Proverb 18:20 also said "A man's stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth. And from the produce of his lips he shall be filled." If you really understand what these two verses of Proverbs had said you will understand that so many people speak death to their lives everyday but they never realized it. Let's look at it from these corners: IN BUSINESS If your business that was bumming with custom...

31. When Confronted, She Stays Silent Sometimes, when you're convinced that something's up, there's no use skulking around like a private eye anymore. The best thing to do is just to confront her and ask her straight up for the truth. Many times, you'll find out what you want to know. But at other times, she'll have one final trick up her sleeve: complete and other silence. Silence could mean one of two things, actually: either she stays quiet when you ask her, or she oh-so-casually steers the conversation away into a different direction. Either way, that's a bad sign. No-one wants to lie, especially women, and she'll do anything to not be that person. Even though she's already started one of the biggest lies of all. 32. She's Buying New Clothes Often Alright, alright, we can hear you laughing already. A girl who often buys new clothes? That just means she's still breathing, not that she's necessarily cheating. We know that no ...

21. She Can't Commit Oh boy. We're not looking to open up some age-old battle of the sexes here, but we will say one thing: the old clichés really are true. Women look for commitment, and men couldn't run away faster if their balls were on fire. We're big kids at heart, us men, and the idea of just playing with one toy for the rest of our lives just doesn't seem right - especially when there's an infinitely big Lego set out there. That being said, there are some men who are more than happy to settle down and say those magic words. If you're one of those, and your partner is being unfaithful, you're going to find that the tables are turned. Cheating women have no interest in the long-term anymore, and clearly they don't see a future with you. If she can't or won't talk about commitment, then there's something clearly wrong. 22. You're Seeing Less And Less Of Her Whether you're living together or not, quality time in a ...

There's nothing more crushing than finding out someone is cheating on you. It's the end of everything: a relationship you thought was going well, all that time and hard work you put in to make it work, and all your self-confidence and the ability to trust people. Gone in an instant, through no fault of your own. Worst of all, it almost always comes as a complete shock. But there are many, many ways to tell if she is playing the field behind your back, so you can be prepared for the worst. If your girl is doing any of these, it's time to start packing your bags... According to relationship experts, #38 is a SURE sign she is cheating on you. 1. She's Acting Like A GPS Tracker There's a number one trick to cheating: don't get caught. As long as you never get caught, you never have to confront those ugly feelings or all the pain you're inflicting on your partner. And this may be blatantly obvious, but the key to not getting caught is to not be in the...

*Don't marry for sex. *Don't marry because you are getting old. *Don't marry because you are lonely. *Don't marry because you mistakenly impregnated her. *Don't marry because you don't want to lose the person. *Don't marry because of pressures. *Don't marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding you see. *Don't marry because all your friends are getting married;..But, -Get married because you want to fulfil destiny. *Get married because you want to be a help mate to an imperfect person who loves & accepts you for who you are, not who you pretend to be! *Get married because you want to fulfil your promises... I PRAY FOR YOU: May God help you in choosing the right person meant for you. And may the wrong  person be disconnected away from your life in JESUS NAME.

After a whole month of daily calls to Kenny with no response, I finally gave up. I knew my marriage was over. I had gone through the full cycle from tears to pain in my heart to anger to being just blank. I have finally resigned myself to fate. Even the strength to pray had left me. I have tried interpreting Kenny’s silence in different ways but my conclusion was that he just didn’t love me enough to fight for us. I sent him different text messages and not once did he humour me and respond. I just could not understand why a man will be silent after hearing his wife was raped. As always my mum walked into my bedroom that Friday afternoon once again to ask what happened between my husband and I. She had soon figured out something was wrong but I always refused to tell her.”Lola, you know what? Your father and I have tried. You have stayed in our house for over a month and we have been caring. You can’t keep saying there is nothing wrong when I have been married for thirty fi...

My conversation with Kenny made me realize he didn’t value me as his wife and so I made a decision to give him space. I called my mum and told her I was coming home for a week. I was able to convince her Kenny supported my decision and I packed my bags. I was going to go home for a week. The next morning I told Kenny about my trip,”I listened to everything you said and I have decided we probably need to give each other some space. I am taking a break and travelling to my parent’s house”. I said Kenny shook his head, ”you should be ashamed of yourself Lola. In fact when they call women to stand up, you should hide your face in shame. So you cannot take care of your home, you can’t satisfy your husband and now rather than deal with your problems you are running?”Kenny, I refuse to be insulted. I sat quietly while you heaped insults on me yesterday but that doesn’t mean I will continue to take it. You said my presence is causing you sorrow and now I am giving you space. I will...

About Eight hours i personally sat in the office of the doctor to get a detailed explanation on Kenny’s condition. All I had been told as I waited was that he was alive and he had been taken in for ultrasound and later for surgery. The nurses refused to tell me the severity of the accident and I had brought hell down screaming and shouting. Eventually, I called my sister-in-law who came to wait with me and was able to calm me down. I had to leave the hospital briefly to use the cash machine and make some monetary deposits but aside from that I had been unable to drink even a drop of water.”Mrs Ayorinde, thank you so much for your patience” the doctor started, but I quickly cut him short”Sir, please just go straight to the point, how is he? What happened? What was the surgery for? Is he okay? Did the surgery go well?””Madam, I will answer all your questions but I need you to relax a bit””Okay, please go on” I said.”Your husband is fine and the surgery was successful. He suff...

On Saturday morning when Kenny walked into the house, I had decided enough was enough and I was not going to pay for my sins forever. He had no right whatsoever to keep sleeping outside the house under the guise of anger. I was already waiting for him and as soon as he stepped in, I just blew up,”Where do you think you are coming from oga?” I shouted.He looked at me like I had suddenly grown two heads and to my surprise he replied, ”Sunrise hotel”.”Is that where you have been staying?” I asked unsure. Not expecting him to answer in the first place.”Yes I got a room there” he answered and looked at me, ”Is that all? he asked.”No, that is not all Kenny and don’t make me feel stupid. You have been sleeping outside for the past three weeks and now I am questioning you, you’re acting ignorant” I was truly bewildered.”Madam, you asked me where I have been and I answered you. How am I acting ignorant?””Kenny, once again, I am sorry”.”Okay I have heard. Just to be clear though, wha...

It has been a week since I finished fastened Kenny has still not spent a single night in the house. Every morning he came home to dress for work and didn’t come home till the next morning. Every morning I met him at the door begging and cajoling but it was always the same. He totally ignored me, walked past into the guest room and walked back out once he was done changing cloths and having his bath. Not one word was ever said in acknowledgment. I began to think I probably should have compromised during the 100 days. I did not expect him to take it this far. I did not even know what plausible solution I could execute. I knew sex was a big deal to men but it was always painful for me anyway so I was never all excited about it. On our wedding night, when Kenny deflowered me, I thought I was only going to feel the pain for less than a week but it has been six months and every single intimacy we have had was laced with very uncomfortable pain. Chauvinist as Kenny was, he felt I wa...

I decided that night that I had had enough of Kenny’s erratic behavior and we needed counseling. I waited for him to come home the next morning but he never showed up. I called him around noon when I was getting worried but he did not pick my call. I got a text shortly after saying, ”I am quite surprised you are looking for me. Don’t worry, I am fine. Don’t let me distract you from God”. I decided it was time to seek counsel from my pastor’s wife. As I sat down with Mummy as we normally call her that evening after a word of prayer and recounted the full story of our challenges from the beginning of the fasting period. I was quite hopeful that I will get solutions on the next step to take. Mummy looked at me and shook her head as I showed her the last text I got from Kenny from my phone. ”Sister Lola, what does the Bible say about our parents and honor?” ”Honour your father and mother, that your days might be long” I quickly replied wondering why we were talking about ...