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Many ladies always ask, "how can I know that a guy loves me?" Many ladies have lost good guys because they cannot identify good guys. Although guys can pretend, but you can identify a fake guy and you can know whether a guy loves you or not in the following ways: 1. A fake guy will demand for sex. A real guy will also demand for sex. But a fake guy will quit the relationship if you refuse to have sex with him, while a real guy will not quit even if you don't give him sex. 2. A fake guy shows love and care. A real guy also shows love and care. But watch out! A fake guy will stop to be caring if you commit any offence, but a real guy never stops being caring no matter your offence. 3. A real guy will not like to leave you no matter the situation. 4. A real guy that truly loves you will always apologise even if it is not his fault. 5. Fake guys pamper ladies. Real guys also pamper ladies too. But if a guy pampers you to the extreme, hmm don't trust him. In most ca...

Relationship of nowadays seems more like child's play. People go in and out of it as if it is a public toilet where exit and entry is not restricted to anyone. I'm stuck in a generation where the word Love is referred to as normal word and sex seems to be as free as the air we breath. This has given so many good girls who in words fall for a guy only for her to find out later that he's nothing but a player. Doubt to end up with the right guy will become a problem to her in the latter days. But fr those who really want to get into a serious relationship with a guy or lady, these five (5) rules should guide you if applied properly. 1. Stay Faithful Being faithful is one problem mostly guys have in a relationship. Yes, both male and female cheat in a relationship but it is estimated that the male is 73% a cheater than the female. This seems true as most married men are always caught around with young ladies of different caliber, background and lifestyle. Ladies are one...

For the newlyweds or the about to get married here are five simple things you must know As you change your status from fiancé and fiancée to husband and wife there are so many things to expect as you settle into marriage. Marriage they say is not a bed of roses as there surely will be ups and downs. For you to take the first step by exchanging vows then you are surely in for the ride. You need to know that every marriage you admire is because the two parties work towards it. Take note of ‘work’ because it demands continuous effort. Marriage remains a major milestone regardless of how long you have known each other.  For the newlyweds or the about to get married here are five simple things you must know Responsibility isn’t an option This is unarguably as your new status also demands a level of responsibility. When you were still single you could stay out all night and not be accountable to anybody but as a wife/husband you can’t just decide ...

Here are 5 money mistake couples should avoid. Financial and money issues are one of the  major problems of marriages  and relationship. Making money decisions calls for serious deliberation between couples, with all the arguments, going back and forth to reach a common goal. Here are 5 money mistake couples should avoid. 1.Not having the money talk This is one of the major money mistakes to be avoided between couples.  As couples, you should have the money talk  frequently. Not having the regular talk might be bad for couples finances. The same way the lack of communication can kill a relationship, so also does it apply to money, if you don’t talk about it. It will kill your finance. Take time out with your significant half to talk about your financial status and how you can improve on it. You can do this at the end of every week. 2. Keeping money secrets If you keep financial secrets from your partner or you don’t bother about your partner...

Everyone  desires to have a relationship that is filled with happiness, joy, and love.  Unfortunately, many people have been exposed to so many unhealthy relationships that they don’t know what a truly healthy relationship looks like and feels like. But if you are tired of trial and error relationships, here are 10 characteristics of a healthy relationship: Partners truly value their relationship Both partners are loyal to one another and willing to work through conflicts together. They both truly believe in the relationship and are committing to the lessons and growth that come while being together despite the challenges that come up. The relationship is balanced No one person has any more power over decisions made as a couple than the other. Both people have an equal say and have equal control over decisions made and both equally respect each other as a different and unique human being. Partners don’t try to control or fix the other person Partners in hea...

Even with the tons of dating material out there on the internet and bookstores, we ladies still encounter awkward situations while in a relationship. Like seriously, you would think a 23year old lady would have gotten the hang of the dating thing already but nah! Under that gorgeous façade is raging confusion sidled with nervousness, doubts, name it! Here’s a list of dating problems only women understand. When you like him but his friends are jerks It’s not like you can tell him to ditch his forever friends for you who he met days ago! So you put up with hanging out with him and his annoying friends who can’t take a single clue! When he looks nothing like his online profile photo And here’s why most of us detest online dating! After you’ve tripped for the guy with his smooth ways and of course good looks evident in his online photos then you’ll meet him real life and realize you’ve landed into deep sh*t since our guy’s look is n...

Going on a first date can be pretty intimidating for some people. What you need is to shake the conversation up with some unique questions instead of the regular lackluster ones that get served on first dates. Here are five interesting first date questions that could put you in a better position to decide if this first encounter could possibly lead to a second date and beyond. 1. What are the qualities of your ideal relationship? She can reveal what she’s looking for in life and what kind of a relationship she expects out of a partner. 2. What do you like to do for fun? This will let you know if you can share leisure activities. 3. What is the sort of relationship you are looking for and why? Most experts agree this is the most important question you can ask on a first date because once it’s asked, you should know what you are getting into. 4. What do you look for in a guy? Her answer can reveal her romantic aspirations. 5. What’s the most annoying thing a pe...

1. If you are indecisive. Any woman with self-respect knows exactly what she wants and knows  how to  get it. She also knows it’s a waste of time and energy to invest anything into someone who doesn’t make you feel safe or secure. 2. If you disrespect her or others. She will watch closely how you treat those around you. Even when you don’t think she’s watching she is. And if at any moment you disrespect her she’ll call you out on it and tell you exactly what she didn’t like. If you don’t change she’ll leave. 3. If you play games. She doesn’t have time to figure out how you feel and she sure as hell doesn’t care how long she waits to respond. Maturity is learning that healthy  relationship  requires communication not messing with someone’s head just to see how they react. You play games she reacts by not responding to it. 4. If you make excuses. Any woman with self-respect takes complete ow...

Taking that step in your relationship is a big deal, but there are a few things to consider before saying I love you in your relationship. Saying I love you is more than just saying a sentence. It is a declaration and a promise, and you need to make sure you are ready for that promise when you say it. You may think you are ready, it is the right time, or that you two are destined to be together, but it can’t hurt to consider these things before saying I love you. 1. IS IT THE RIGHT SETTING While you might feel the timing is right, think about if the setting is right before saying I love you. We all dream of this fairy tale romance with our significant other. While we might not get that fairy tale all of the time, if you are ready to say I love you, you can create your own fairy tale setting. You don’t have to plan something big if you are getting ready to say it, but make it a special moment between you two. It seems a lot more romantic if you say it at a spontaneous mome...

One of the tough decisions most of us have had to make is deciding whether to stay friends with an ex after the relationship hit the rocks. There are both advantages and disadvantages as regards whatever decision we took but what way is best for you? Except your relationship came to an end with a suitcase of your clothes being doused in petrol and set alight or your car being vandalised, a lot of breakups contain these words: “Let’s stay friends”. But is remaining friends with an ex a good idea and is it even possible? Here are all the pros and consider that can help you make the decision that’s best for you. Cons The disadvantages of staying friends with an ex are pretty obvious. Despite the trauma surrounding your break up, the fact that one of you may have unfinished business, or even a sense of resentment towards the person who broke it off can be traumatising. If you do decide to stay friends, it is best to acknowledge that your relationship will never...

One of the tough decisions most of us have had to make is deciding whether to stay friends with an ex after the relationship hit the rocks. There are both advantages and disadvantages as regards whatever decision we took but what way is best for you? Except your relationship came to an end with a suitcase of your clothes being doused in petrol and set alight or your car being vandalised, a lot of breakups contain these words: “Let’s stay friends”. But is remaining friends with an ex a good idea and is it even possible? Here are all the pros and consider that can help you make the decision that’s best for you. Cons The disadvantages of staying friends with an ex are pretty obvious. Despite the trauma surrounding your break up, the fact that one of you may have unfinished business, or even a sense of resentment towards the person who broke it off can be traumatising. If you do decide to stay friends, it is best to acknowledge that your relationship will never...

A lot of men dont know that women maintain a mental checklist that they use to analyse whether a man is ready for something serious or not. How Interesting Can A Conversation With Him Be? Women want a man they can maintain a conversation with. It’s never enough if you have a good job, look handsome and share the same hobbies with her. You have to be able to hold and sustain meaningful conversations with her if she will ever want to consider a future with you. You can imagine how boring it will be to have a relationship where you’d both sit at a table with virtually nothing to talk about. Women want someone they can talk and laugh with. How Physically Attractive Is He? This one is pretty obvious because every woman has a dream about a cute guy who they want to be theirs. Women may however look past this one if they are sure that a man has other outstanding qualities that beats his look. This however doesn’t mean that physical attraction doesn’t rank on top ...

If you enjoy the chase but still want to be in a monogamous relationship, there are a couple of things you need to ask yourself that can help you determine your values and priorities. These questions include Do you sincerely want to put in the work required to make your relationship work, or would you prefer dating around? How much do you want a lasting relationship? The answers to these questions can help you determine what you want. Be honest and sincere with your partner about what you want and this can go a long way in helping you quit the chase. Furthermore, try alternative adrenaline-induced activities to provide you with the excitement you need. Embracing sporting activities such as jogging and other activities like playing an instrument, volunteering and artistic expression can help you maintain a sense of challenge and excitement without the fear of destroying your relationship.

A lot of people are in love with “the chase” and don’t even know it. Quite a number of men love the hard stance women give them when they are in pursuit of a relationship. The chase is however not limited to men only as women too sometimes crave the excitement and heat that comes with someone new. For a lot of people, the excitement of the pursuit is more enticing and rewarding than the relationship itself. Here are five reasons why people jump from one relationship to the other in a seemingly endless quest for the fun and excitement that comes with a new relationship. 1. Society Glamorizes Love Pop culture as told through romantic movies tend to tell us stories about how men and women can overcome problems together. The movie usually ends with the couple hugging and making up while the screen credits roll. We never get to know how the couple sustain their connections or what happens after. this orMost romantic movies tell a story about a man and a woman overcomi...

All relationships have their own peculiar set of problems but there are yet some particular fights that can be said to be common to almost every relationship. It is important to be able to recognise the common fights as that will be a first step in addressing the problems. 1. Her Family Doesn’t Like You You will be one hell of a lucky person if you find that your in love you just as much as you love them. For the people unfortunate enough to fall in a different category, take a deep breath and mind your manners because this is an argument that’s not worth having. Chances are, her dad thinks you’re not good enough for her, her mum might be a nag and her brother might be a macho fellow that barely knows his right from his left. Irrespective of these things, her family were in your partner’s life long before you surfaced and they will be around when you leave. Even if you’re sure they don’t like you, avoid heat-of-the-moment insults as the only thin...

There is no relationship that doesn’t have the occasional heated debate. Disagreements are part of a healthy relationship but it is nonetheless important to choose carefully, the words you say during a heated conversation with your partner because the wrong choice of words may result in an escalation of issues. As such, ensure that you remove the 7 Words and/or phrases below whenever you have a disagreement with your partner. 1. “But…” Well, this word tends to rule out anything your partner was trying to say during the disagreement. Nobody likes to be dismissed or their points rendered invalid. Instead of using ‘But’, se the words “at the same time” or “and”. These words tell your partner that you respect their opinions even if you yours is different from theirs. 2. “Whatever!” There are times that when we sense an argument coming up, we try to downplay and avoid it by bowing out as early as possible. This may...

At a younger age, chances are you’d have had a crush on an older woman and there are some good reasons why this match could be a good one. Between the ages of 18 and 21, sexual and physiological factors are at its peak for men and same goes for women when they are in their mid to late thirties which may be one of the reasons for the younger man, older woman match. However, women that are free and willing to go into a relationship with a younger man are fewer than those who wouldn’t. The question now is how can you compete against the vast number of women not willing to go into a relationship with a younger man? Here are a few tips that can help you seduce and secure the attention of the older woman you’ve been eyeing. 1. Stick Your Head Out The simple fact that you’re young is a source of attraction for older women. Older people love the youthfulness and freshness of the younger ones. Irrespective of your age, women have certain traits they long to see in ...

A great marriage is not far from you. That's if you know what to do. If you don't, it can become hell. In this Part 14 of the series, I bring you 15 more nuggets of truth to help you in your (future) marriage: 196. If you want trust you must do things that build trust. If your phone rings and you can’t allow her to pick it up or your phone is always locked when with her, your relationship has a trust issue. And if you’re the lady, what are you doing moving the relationship into marriage? 197. In absolute terms, regardless of who s/he might be, never marry anyone who in any way communicates the feeling that s/he is doing you a favour marrying you. 198. You dehumanize yourself when you beg someone to love you. 199. No matter what happens, hold up your head high and smile at life, even if s/he broke the relationship months or days before the wedding. 200. Love that you will enjoy must be a mutual thing: you love him and he loves you. 20...

A great marriage is not far from you. That's if you know what to do. If you don't, it can become hell. In this Part 13 of the series, I bring you 15 more nuggets of truth to help you in your (future) marriage: 181. Why would you continue in a relationship with a man who thinks to do it before marriage is normal but you don’t? 182. Any relationship has the potential of resulting in marriage. The longer you stay with a man, the more your emotions has the chance to take over and silence your mind. You very quickly need to know whether he’s wise by evaluating his values and principles. You need to quickly know whether he is someone you can respect enough to follow his lead were you to marry him. 183. I have heard the statement “I love him” too often as if that’s the decisive factor on who to marry. At this point, the ladies head are usually knocked out. This is one reason why a girl/lady must be submitted to her father/ father figure before committing to m...

1. Be Patient With Your Partner: Avoid forcing your lover to do something against his or her wish. Let everything happen in the right time. There is no need to rush. 2. Be An Understanding Partner: Try to believe what your lover tells you, if he tells you that he failed to get airtime to call you, try to understand. He’s also a human being like you. If she tells you that by the time you called her, she was asleep–please try to understand. She also gets tired and she needs to rest like any other person. 3. Always Forgive And Forget: Avoid bringing back the old things your lover did to you in the past every time you get a quarrel. 4. Be Caring: I don’t mean you should go and borrow money from the bank and friends to buy costly things for your partner or taking him or her to expensive hotels. I mean doing the little things that suits your wallet. Trust me if your lover is understanding he/she will appreciate and love you that way. 5. Maintain The C...

At first when you start a business, your husband might seem supportive because he thinks it is just a business to keep you busy. But as the business becomes successful, he gets scared. He gets scared because he feels that you might become something else. He has heard so many stories of women who have become rich and are now terrible. He is scared that you might not be able to balance it all. You have the power to manage this transition. 1. Don’t start what you cannot finish Breakfast in bed, Cooking fresh food everyday. The day you become busy and you cannot make breakfast in bed, he will say you have changed and will start treating you as if you are a horrible person. 2. Make your husband a stakeholder in everything you do You must have heard people say: Your husband’s money is your money Your money is your money This is bad advice If your husband has no stake in what you do, what is his benefit? You are making money everyday and you are still a...