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It is no news that toxic relationships are bad, a toxic relationship is any relationship that is detrimental to the physical, psychological and emotional wellbeing of the person or people involved. It can be a result of myriad of reasons. We hope to expose some of them in this article and the effects that they have on those in them. 1. Comparison A relationship can switch from healthy to toxic once a lot of comparisons are involved. I mean just think about it, nobody wants to hear things like “hey, you remind me of my ex, in fact you sound or behave like he/she does” or please “can you do this or that because that’s how my ex does it”.  Sometimes even comparing your partner to your parent or his or her parent or their sibling can be a major turn off and if consistent can lead to major toxicity in a relationship. Photo Credit: Psychology today 2. Unresolved Issues or Mental health challenges If a relationship is like a new apartment, know ...

Photo Credit: Unsplash Toxic relationships can really take a negative toll on an individual and the longer you stay in the the more difficult they are to get out of. Here we propose a number of steps to take to get out of a toxice relationship. 1. Admit it’s a Toxic Relationship and Step Out of The Denial This is usually the most difficult part and it may also be very hurtful emotionally but once you’ve been able to conclude and make the decision that you’re in a toxic relationship and you want to get out of it you’d be better for it.  Fifty percent of the recovery process is admitting you are/were in a toxic relationship in the first place. To know more about the sihns of a toxic relationship you can check out our other articles  signs it’s a toxic relationship Photo Credit: America's Keswick 2. Seek Help Everyone needs help from time to time, there is never shame in asking for help from real friends and loving and supportive family memb...

A relationship is by nature something that should be between two people. Ok, there are other forms of romantic and sexual relationships such as open relationships, friends with benefits, sugar mummy and sugar daddy relationships, etc. But the most common one, the one which we all know and ultimately aspire to, is the monogamous  one between just two people who have decided to be together and love on each other for as long as possible. The goal is actually to have it last forever. A relationship by nature is meant to be between two people [Credit - Shutterstock] But for this to actually happen, for two people to be together for as long as they want, they have to create some necessary boundaries. They need to put in place demarcations, and lines that cannot be crossed. These boundaries help regulate how partners are meant to treat other, and what their relationship with others should be like. The following are five of such boundaries to never cross in a re...

For those who choose to tie the knot, it’s easy to get into a pattern of bad habits over time. Whether your work life is taking the time you used to spend together or you simply can’t remember the last time the two of you sat down to talk, relationships can get stagnant, and couples can grow apart.  Image source: bustle.com However, there are fun ways to keep your relationship alive and strong. Read through .....  Plan Regular Date Nights Image source: royalfashionist.com Keeping the spark alive in your marriage means spending quality time together, and that doesn’t just mean nights at home on the couch. Plan romantic dates like the ones you had when you were dating and you’ll keep that spark alive. Say Thank You Image source: pinterest It’s easy to forget your manners when you’ve been with someone for a long time. However, saying “please” and “thank you” to your significant other can go a long way toward making them feel r...

As Nigeria take on Madagascar in their last group stage match at the ongoing 2019 Africa Cup of Nations, AFCON, in Egypt, you can win N1,500 worth of airtime courtesy of Scooper. cooper will be giving out the airtime to not one user, not two, but 10 users. This is our way of giving back to our readers. Below are the requirements to win: 1.      Be one of the first 10 people to predict the correct score of the Madagascar v Nigeria match in the comment section of this article. 2.      You can also win by following the live commentary for the match which will be on the app by 5 p.m. and drop your correct score prediction in the ‘Discuss’ section. 3.     Your comment/prediction must be accompanied by your email address and phone number or either of the two. 4.     Your prediction must be in on or before half-time of the match which is 5:45 p.m. 5.     Imp...

So many people would ask this question in different languages, different places and different time but still we fall in and out of love daily.  So many adults out of pity or being blamed, stick to a relationship despite the fact that they can't find their happiness and joy in it... Bit how would you answer the question in the title, Is it okay to fall out of love and find love AGAIN? In my opinion  moving on  is the best medicine as regarded for false relationship as one cannot spoil his/her complete life behind one person if he/she doesn't care about you. Blahh.... Especially, the so called 21st generation that say  they found true love in the age of 14–15  is just stupidity and nothing else. One or the other is using you to satisfy there own need and if the other is loving that doesn't mean true love; it is just caring. Falling in love is ia a feeling that destroys all the senses and is one thing which don't require any efforts but ...

Love is a feeling of good for the loved. When you love someone you want to do them well, be there for them, you want to make them happy. Most relations in the world are based on love. Truth is that love isn’t enough, because you can date someone you don’t love and still be committed. You can also love someone deeply and never want to date that person. Reasons why love isn’t enough 1.    Love doesn’t last forever Photo credit: cftetinvalley Have you ever truly loved someone that you felt you couldn’t live without, someone who made you feel like the world was beneath you? Are you still in love with them now? For some people, the answer is yes but for most, you have had so many such people. It is quick to come but also quick to leave too. You start dating someone you love and then just like that one day you realize you don’t love them anymore and it has nothing to do with them or what they did or didn’t do. Love isn’t a forever feeling, it comes ...

My boyfriend and I had been dating for about 5 years before he proposed. During the course of our relationship, I had not really formed a tight bond with his mother because she was not always in the country. The only time I could talk to her was through the phone and it wasn't frequent. So I thought now would be a good time since I was going to be married to her son. The day we eventually met, she was nice to me, we gisted a lot and we got along well or so I thought. Some minutes before we were supposed to leave, she got a call from Ife, my fiance's ex and I was shocked at how chummy they were. She even invited her over. I felt so bitter. The same Ife that had cheated on him and made his life miserable.  The next day, she told her son that a prophet from somewhere told her I was going to bring suffering into the family and she wasn't going to let the marriage go on. I love my fiance, we have been through thick and thin together. I even got his present ...

A long distance relationship is one that exists between two people who are not in the same physical location. The distance between both parties varies but the constant thing is that they are not close to each other because of the distance between their locations.  Some people thrive with long distance relationships, and would even choose it over a relationship with someone they have easy access to and their reasons vary. Here are some issues with long distance relationships 1.    Miscommunication Photo Credit: personal.psu.edu A long distance relationship in the 21st century exist mostly online, it survives on calls and text and chats. Every discussion is done without seeing the person. Communication is generally better when you can see the person because words are not enough when we talk we use our tone, body gestures and facial expressions to fully and properly convey the message.  For example, if I say “what is wrong with you” ...

Relationships can be very demanding and it can take quite a lot to build and maintain a healthy relationship.  But it can be easy if you talk openly about it and willing to put in the work. Keeping a relationship open and free, so that both parties can comfortably talk about what's on their mind, is one of the key factors of being in a healthy relationship. Matter of fact, couples whose relationship are healthy and successful, talk about these 10 things. And you should too if you want yours to be like that. 1. Daily Activities To prevent your relationship from going stale, you can both swap stories about your daily activities. Like what you ate for lunch, what you discussed with your co-workers and what happened to you on your way to work or back. If it is anything eventful. 2. Money Let them in on your saving and spending habits. How you plan to manage your budget and reach your saving targets. Talk about how feasible it would be if both of you started saving togeth...

A sad woman. If you keep asking him whether he loves you then things are not okay. [ Source/hhnaijarivalry.com] Love is a free gift and should come naturally. There are times we force things to happen in our favour. According to  RelRules , things don't always work out in most relationships where only one person is committed. Here are signs you’re forcing yourself to love someone. 1. You make all the plans alone Planning alone means you are alone. The other person does not care. It becomes an individual effort to make things work. Love is a two-way traffic.  LATEST JOB VACANCIES 2. You are the only one calling Does your partner call you? How many times does he/she call you? If you are the only one calling, something is wrong somewhere. He or she should also call you daily for the relationship to work. 3. You keep confirming If you keep asking him whether he loves you then things are not okay. Confirming your fears means the effort seems not to...

Men cheat more than women. It may come as cold comfort to women scorned, but they don’t seem to do so with the same intention as women. Cheaters, specifically repeat cheaters, tend to be opportunistic and capable of emotional compartmentalization. Some men may cheat because they are unsatisfied, but, as a rule, men don’t cheat because they are unhappy. Men cheat because they think they can get away with it and because they’re willing to let themselves get away with it. Cheating is, strangely, a behavior that can make it hard to be a good father and husband, but also a behavior that isn’t actually correlated with familial love or care. There are many things that trigger this trait in men... Here are some..: 1. Some men are just naturally sexual insatiable and will always hungry for sex in the body of any woman that gives him way. 2. Some woman have the attitude of punishing their husband with sex and at the end resulting to the man going outside to get himself. 3. This may ...

There are stages to falling in love being Friendship…its the essence of any relationship. If you get attracted it goes to stage 2. If not, then friendship is the best phase. You can fight and argue and talk, laugh and share. And be friends for life…lean on each other.. being Infatuation.. its a threshhold between frienship and love.. its the start of the stage 3 , it may stay that ways till you dont feel anything more.  Physical attraction, talking all the time, becoming more comfortable are a few. You still argue and talk, exchange opinions. It is said infatuation is experienced for 18 months to 3 years. In between, if you really find someone more attractive it fades away. But friendship still stays. being Love.. its less obsessive, less possesive,more absorbing,more calm,more positive. Its gradual..more loving each other…committed like. Its too early to decide if its anything for now..give it time.. stick around..give chances..trial error type...

“How are you?” “What do you do?” Innocuous questions. And terrible conversation starters . That’s what Gary Burnison, the CEO of the global consulting firm Korn Ferry and author of the new book Lose the Resume, Land the Job , reminded everyone when he explained what not to ask when meeting new people . Instead, do the following: • Ask a lot of questions . “People spend most of their time during conversations talking about their own viewpoints and tend to self-promote when meeting people for the first time. In contrast, how question-askers—those that probe for informati from others—are perceived as more responsive and are better liked,” noted a recent Harvard study. • Ask a lot of thought-provoking questions . Forget “What do you do,” especially at a work-related function. “The question quickly sets a boundar around the conversation that the other person ii now a ‘work’ contact,” says author David Birkus who instead suggests “What’s the best thing that happen...

The world of relationship is really complicated. With deceits and heartbreaks everywhere. it is difficult to distinguish genuine guys from those that are only there for the “cookies”. It’s natural for ladies not to take their some guys serious due to past experience. You can’t actually blame them for this. Not after they have been betrayed and taken for granted. Relationships should have a direction. Ordinarily, it ought to lead to marriage. Always Includes You In His Future When He Talks About It When a man always use the word “we” whenever he discuss the future, that means the relationship is going to the next level. When a man sees you as his future wife, he always use we when he discuss the future. He will say things like; our children will be beautiful, we will go on vacation in Dubai for our honeymoon. He Is Passionate About Marriage There are several boyfriends out there. But we have a very few potential husbands. Most of the boys out there ar...

Kissing has loads of mental and physical benefits that make getting your smooch on totally worth it. Here’s what the science says. 1. It boosts your ‘happy hormones Kissing triggers your brain to release a cocktail of chemicals that leave you feeling oh so good by igniting the pleasure centers of the brain.These chemicals include oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, which can make you feel euphoric and encourage feelings of affection and bonding. It also lowers your cortisol (stress hormone) levels. 2. Which helps you bond with the other person Oxytocin is a chemical linked to pair bonding. The rush of oxytocin released when you kiss causes feelings of affection and attachment. Kissing your partner can improve relationship satisfaction and may be especially important in long-term relationships. 3. And has a tangible impact on your self-esteem In addition to boosting your happy hormones, kissing can reduce your cortisol levels — potentially improvi...

The thought of being cheated on can be damning, from both sides, but this article focuses on women, particularly those more likely to cheat on their guys. Here are 5 types of such ladies: The one who has an excessive need for attention  – It is actually not bad in itself to want attention from your partner, but when it is in excess, then it becomes a problem because you may not be getting such attention all the time, Hence tendency to cheat increases. The materialistic one:  The one who loves flashy things will likely cheat on her man when she stops getting all that material stuff from her man. The one who gets bored easily:  In the absence of her man, these kind of ladies are likely to cheat on the next available guy who keeps things interesting. The one with a lot of male friends:  Ladies with lots of male friends may end up catching feelings for one of them, or it could be pure sexual attraction to the guy. ...