4 Things That Will Lead To A Toxic Relationship

It is no news that toxic relationships are bad, a toxic relationship is any relationship that is detrimental to the physical, psychological and emotional wellbeing of the person or people involved. It can be a result of myriad of reasons.

We hope to expose some of them in this article and the effects that they have on those in them.

1. Comparison

A relationship can switch from healthy to toxic once a lot of comparisons are involved. I mean just think about it, nobody wants to hear things like “hey, you remind me of my ex, in fact you sound or behave like he/she does” or please “can you do this or that because that’s how my ex does it”.

Sometimes even comparing your partner to your parent or his or her parent or their sibling can be a major turn off and if consistent can lead to major toxicity in a relationship.

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2. Unresolved Issues or Mental health challenges

If a relationship is like a new apartment, know that people move their former furniture or appliances (experiences, attachments, abuse etc.) in to the new apartment(relationship) and just dump them there.

This can cause a lot of toxicity in the new relationship if not properly addressed and dealt with.

3. Gullibility and Blind trust

The truth is that some people are more prone to being victims of toxic relationships than others and this can be because they just trust blindly and don’t verify fact. My advice is as much as you want to trust the other person go the extra mile to verify the facts and information they give you, ask around about their character before making solid commitments to them.

4.Narcissism and Selfishness

Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egoistical admiration one’s idealized self-image, basically it is when a person is just too full of themselves, everything has to revolve around them and be about them. This kind of attitude can choke the partner and cause toxicity.

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The causes of Toxic relationships cannot be exhausted in this short article. After acknowledging the following few causes of check out our other articles on avoiding toxic relationship(link) and getting out of a toxic relationship.

ALSO READ: 5 Ways To Get Out Of Toxic Relationships

Fill whatever hole or void the person leaves with the most positive opposites that you can find. You can also seek the help of a psychologist or therapist to guide you through the process of recovery. Take your time to heal.

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