31. When Confronted, She Stays Silent
Sometimes, when you're convinced that something's up, there's no use skulking around like a private eye anymore. The best thing to do is just to confront her and ask her straight up for the truth. Many times, you'll find out what you want to know. But at other times, she'll have one final trick up her sleeve: complete and other silence.
Silence could mean one of two things, actually: either she stays quiet when you ask her, or she oh-so-casually steers the conversation away into a different direction. Either way, that's a bad sign. No-one wants to lie, especially women, and she'll do anything to not be that person. Even though she's already started one of the biggest lies of all.
32. She's Buying New Clothes Often
Alright, alright, we can hear you laughing already. A girl who often buys new clothes? That just means she's still breathing, not that she's necessarily cheating. We know that no woman would ever turn down an opportunity to expand her wardrobe, and your lady is likely to be just the same. But sometimes, just sometimes, it's not a good sign.
The key thing to look out for is whether she's actually wearing those clothes around you or not. Even if it's as she's getting ready for a night out with the girls, she should still be showing off her new rags proudly. On the other hand, if you're seeing a bunch of receipts and shopping bags but none of the merchandise, she's saving her best looks for someone else. And she doesn't want you to know.
33. You Begin To Notice Emotional Distance
If there's one thing that men are actually good at - you know, aside from opening jars and catcalling - it's separating emotions and sex. In fact, they're very good at separating emotions from just about everything. Women, on the other hand, are far more likely to let emotions intertwine with every aspect of their life. When they start to disconnect, it's a big deal.
It's also a very deliberate choice. A lot of men don't care if they don't love the woman that they're sleeping with. A lot of women won't bother to sleep with you unless they love you first. Withdrawing their feelings is their way of saying that they're not interested any more. They're going to invest those feelings somewhere else. She's preparing for a messy breakup, and she's protecting herself from getting hurt.
34. She Suddenly Becomes Dreamy, But It's Not Directed At You
When a woman's in love, she's never afraid to hide it. She'll blush, she'll play with her hair, she'll laugh at even the lamest joke. When she's by herself, she'll spend long hours just looking out the window, smiling faintly and even occasionally sighing. We're not joking here - the faces of flirtation really haven't changed all that much since Jane Austen's day.
Once upon a time, you were the one getting all those love signals. Nowadays, we're guessing that the only time she looks slightly dreamy is when she sees that you're doing the dishes or a pair of Jimmy Choos are on sale. If it's neither of those things, and she's off in another world, smiling to herself all the time, it's definitely not about you.
35. She Now Enjoys Her Independence
Independence is totally cool, and you've got to let a girl do her own thing. She's got things she likes to do that you don't, and if it makes her happy, set her free. It'll be good for you too, because a happy and independent woman is a woman that's easy to love. At the same time, though, you've got to watch out for some very specific warning signs.
If she doesn't even tell you where she's going anymore, and doesn't tell you about it when she comes back, that's not good. If you haven't seen her in a couple of days and it doesn't even seem like she missed you, that's not good. If she's out all the time with "friends", and you can't seem to find any time to spend with her alone, then that's definitely not good.
36. What She Does When She's Out Might Be An Indicator
Whenever us humans are out in a social situation, we put out a whole range of verbal and physical indications of what we're feeling. Like a poker player, you can read a lot by the way a person is standing, the tone of their voice and selection of words, where their eyes are looking, and what they're doing with their hands.
Reading body language is harder than it seems - otherwise we'd all be picking up every night. But with a bit of practice, you can tell what a person is thinking without even having to ask them. You can tell what your girl is thinking, too, without confronting them. Are they giving you their undivided attention? Are they still totally into you? Or are they opening themselves up for a one night stand with someone else?
37. If She's Not Afraid To Show Her Annoyance, Something Might Be Up
Taking ourselves as an example, we're frankly not surprised when our girlfriend shows her annoyance. Day in and day out, we do some pretty dumb stuff. We're surprised she's still with us, to be honest. There are times, though that she'll get mad at you for no reason. When something tiny that she used to let slide suddenly turns into a catastrophe.
You know why she's doing that? It's not just that she hates the way you eat an apple (by the way, you're not, repeat not, meant to lick it all over first), it's just that she's finding any excuse to hate you. And when you're cheating on someone, hating them is far easier on your guilty conscience than feeling sorry for them.
38. She Doesn't Give You Access To Her Phone
When you've been long enough in a relationship, it really doesn't matter what emails, texts, or messages you show to each other. There's no secrets anymore, and you most likely know all each other's passwords anyway. So what if he knows that you like that Instagram pic? So what if she knows that you messaged your brother about how much his sports team sucks?
A secretive relationship - one where you're hiding all your internet and phone activity - can be very damaging to the trust that you share. That's why if she is locking her phone with a new password and not letting you touch it at all, not even to quickly google something, then she must have a really good reason. Like there's some very explicit pictures in there of another man.
39. You've Cheated On Her
Cheating, like so many bad things in life, is a cycle. Whatever you've suffered, it seems to be human nature to then go on and inflict that suffering on others, and cheating is no different. They've hurt you, so how do you pay them back? By cheating in return. It's not just that they want to get back at you, though. It's also some kind of need to make people feel what they felt.
Without point fingers and playing the blame game, it's a high chance that cheating on someone will produce the exact same results. Have you put them through hell? Then they're going to do it right back, no matter how much they say they've forgiven you. If you truly want to repair your relationship, then you're going to have to be on guard - and be prepared to accept - the inevitable retribution.
40. She's Cheated On You (Or Someone Else)
"Once a cheater, always a cheater." Sadly, we think that there's a fair bit of truth to the old saying. A handful of people will only cheat once and forever realize the errors of their ways. Certainly. But it does take a special kind of person to think of cheating on someone instead of just breaking up with them, and those people aren't really going to change.
She may not have cheated on you before, but if she's cheated on any of her partners in the past, then she'll remember the thrill, the ease of getting away with it, and the ability to quickly jump from relationship to relationship. It's just one of those individual traits that's hard to shake. She may not be doing it now, and she may stay true for years to come. But somewhere down the line, there's a high chance she'll slip up again.
Comments
Post a Comment